How to deal with death anxiety

When Steve Jobs was dying from a terminal illness, he said, “Death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life’s change agent, it clears out the old to make way for the new.”

As remarkable as that kind of outlook might be, it is extremely difficult for many people to be that philosophical. It’s actually completely understandable to have anxiety around death, even though it is inevitable. The skill is to not let death anxiety hinder your day-to-day life.

For some people, contemplating death can cause intense anxiety and fear. It’s why death anxiety is a recognized mental health disorder with its own name: Thanatophobia.

It’s considered a phobia if the fear arises virtually every time you think about death or the death of a loved one; if the fear persists for more than six months; or if the fear prevents you from functioning in everyday life or relationships. If this describes your anxiety, please consult a mental health professional.

Signs you have death anxiety

When death anxiety becomes overwhelming, it often shows up in both the mind and body. Some common indicators include:

• Experiencing sudden episodes that resemble a panic attack, including rapid heartbeat, dizziness, or shortness of breath

• Physical anxiety symptoms such as nausea, sweating, trembling, or chest tightness when thinking about death or dying

• Persistent worry, dread, or agitation that disrupts daily life

• Excessive avoidance of death-related topics, such as funerals, obituaries, hospitals, or conversations about mortality

• Constant concerns about your own health or the safety of a loved one

• Negative thoughts that loop and fuel ongoing fear or insecurity

• Co-occurring mental health conditions, like depression, panic disorder, or generalized anxiety, that intensify the distress

Recognizing these signs is an important first step toward understanding your experience. Awareness opens the door to seeking support, exploring therapy, and developing healthier ways of relating to the idea of death.

Lessons from loss 

Tragic circumstances can place you into profound grief, constantly reminding you about the fragility and preciousness of life. Headspace co-founder Andy Puddicombe spent ten years living the monastic life, and part of his training was to examine death in order to understand gratitude for life.

One of Andy’s teachers told him, “Keep death by your side.” The lesson is that there is a danger of missing out on so much if we don’t appreciate even the most ordinary of days. “Because of this,” says Andy, “we do not notice each passing moment, perhaps take others for granted and we do not appreciate the value of this precious human life. But if we live with our mortality as a daily experience, then we will live a happier and healthier life.”

In gaining a better appreciation of all the cruel twists and unknowns, you become more skilled at the “art of living”, making the most of what you have, making each moment count. In facing death, in accepting that it comes to everyone one day, you not only have the opportunity to shift your perspective but to also expand your awareness around life itself.

Aging anxiety

Death anxiety has a sinister sidekick — aging anxiety. Aging is the slow march to that universal destination, on a road you start walking since the moment of your conception. Generally speaking, you’re just as averse to growing old as you are to dying. 

It’s hardly surprising that so many people experience aging anxiety. Especially when society constantly bombards everyone with images of youth and beauty. It took decades of living in the spotlight for legendary actress Sophia Loren to find peace with aging. “There is a fountain of youth,” she said. “It is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”

These aren’t the empty platitudes of just another pretty face. Where the work begins is tapping the source she mentions. One way to do this is, naturally, with meditation.

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Studies show that meditation can even slow the aging process...and it’s all about our telomeres.

What are telomeres? They are protein caps on the ends of each chromosome in our body. During cell division, the chromosome replicates, shortening the telomeres. When they become too short, the cell can no longer divide and replicate, and this is what increases aging.

Stress ages the body, and meditation helps reduce stress so the anti-aging benefits of a consistent meditation practice are what scientists are increasingly exploring. Meditation can help improve sleep and relaxation, thus supporting healthy aging. 

Of course, no one is suggesting that there’s no need for face creams, vitamin supplements, and good nutrition, but meditation — combined with regular exercise and a balanced diet — can make us look and feel better.

There are guided meditations in the Headspace app that would prove useful in helping you to manage death anxiety and the fear of aging. A dedicated 30-day course, Letting Go of Stress, can help increase awareness around stress and negative emotions.

Research has also found that meditation improves cognitive functions, reduces anxiety and depression, and promotes positive emotions. This same study concluded that the practice of meditation may actually promote healthy aging and delay the onset of dementia. It also found that expert meditators have better-preserved brain structures than control groups of the same age.

How to treat death anxiety

Effective treatment for death anxiety often begins with addressing the intense fear and dread that arise when thinking about the dying process. Therapies such as cognitive behavioral therapy can help challenge unrealistic beliefs and reframe negative attitudes toward mortality. Exposure therapy is another evidence-based approach, gradually reducing avoidance by safely confronting death-related triggers, whether a specific event like a funeral or reminders of a traumatic experience.

For some, meaning-centered or existential therapy provides reassurance by exploring purpose and values. Combined with mindfulness practices, these approaches help soften the grip of extreme fear and promote healthier ways of living with mortality.

Wrapping up: How to overcome death anxiety

As you ponder aging and dying, let’s not forget that with age comes wisdom and experience, often a wider circle of loved ones, and perhaps more comfort and security in our sense of self. Death and aging are a part of life. And a long life is a gift many don’t get to experience.

When you can reach a state where you can comfortably reflect on the inescapable truth that you are going to die at some time, then the years you are alive suddenly take on a sharper, more positive focus. And you  can perhaps be motivated to live a better life with more vigor and vibrancy.

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